My Advice to someone who’s the most fearful person in the room

Have you watched the movies or ever played chess, you have to get rid of your most “loyal” pawns first. When you’re dependent on less number of people, you should be skeptical of the most loyal person. Why? Because sometimes you have to get rid of your darlings in order to pursue what’s important.

Let’s define fear for a second, for instance…

Defining Fear

Fear is, in my personal opinion, your personal compass; Taking a 30,000 feet view over life and using the “pain” to clarify things.

Let me give you an example; if you think you’re the most important person in the room then listen up, 90% of people will ridicule you that’s 100% certain. Not because you’re in fault. Because naturally humans try to impose their laziness on someone they feel could be a good scapegoat combined with a quite a bit of envy and jealousy. If you’re an A-Player and just define your goals then 90% of forces will come and try to shatter them.

Instead, you can ask the question, “What 20% of people/activities result in 80% of your negative emotions?”

Why ask this question first? Because three things are certain, when you’re starting out you’re not as important as you think Secondly, you only have to find a narrow group of people that will give you milk for a long time to come and switch off all the temporaries.

So the next question to ask is, “What 20% of people/activities result in 80% of your outputs?”

Two things, first defining nightmares will allow you to observe and eliminate black swans. Secondly You should know the real deals who really bring value to the table.

If you just follow this formula, you can filter 90% of negativity and root out all potential downsides, making you capitalize on your strengths rather than trying to improve your weaknesses all the time as your default “one-size-fits-all” strategy.

Find what others cannot see or are blocked from seeing. Help the people that matter meanwhile let them help you.

That’s it for today. I write daily. Now a habit of mine.